Monday, October 8, 2007

Is Fear Blocking you?


As an author of suspense/thrillers I love to work with fear in my stories. People enjoy being scared to a certain extent. But Fear can also cause you to miss out on incredible opportunities.

Last Monday I discussed the book Failing Forward and this blog ties in to that quite a bit. Fear of Failure will prevent you from trying a new marketing technique, or sometimes submitting a proposal in the first place.

I've never been one who was afraid to send my work off. There was nervous anticipation, even a bit of excitement at the new adventure, but never fear. What keeps me awake at night and makes me become a shivering ball of nerves...the phone.

Yep, I have phone fear.

I knew that from previous sales positions I've held but not until I started working for an Executive Recruiter did I realize how terrified I was of a complete stranger on the other side of the country. I have literally dialed the phone wiping tears from my eyes and hand trembling.

But I learned Fear is good.

It pushes you to become more than you could be. It gives you an enemy to conquer. I've learned a great deal of empathy for people who are afraid of rejection [in their writing] and as I've continued to learn from my boss [who btw is a wonderful example of integrity in business and a great mentor] I've applied it to my writer's life.

I've learned that I can do more than I thought I could. As I push past my fear I'm learning to overcome. As I make phone calls all day I'm becoming more comfortable with it [though my heart is still beating like a hummingbird's wings thinking of the list of calls I have to make after lunch]. The skills I'm using now also help me market my work and my writing career course. You have to be willing to meet people and face rejection as an author. I'm blessed to do it dozens of times a week.

Fear is bad when it causes you to miss the mark and give up on your dreams. There are many times where I've wanted to throw in the towel on writing projects when they got too hard. There are times when I wanted to give up on my full-time job because I've felt like a failure. [Notice: I said FELT LIKE a failure, that doesn't mean I WAS a failure]. But by pushing through that, getting up and doing it one more time, I'm determining my level of success...not fear or its cousin frustration.

So think about it, are you allowing fear to push you forward or hold you back?

Share with us when you've conquered something that scared you. How did it help you grow?

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Jen at Semantically driven said...

Fear, it's the worst four letter word. I was recently asked to speak at a conference next year. My first instinct was to say yes then the doubts started creeping in. Not only do I have to write something, it has to be reasonably interesting so people don't fall asleep. I said yes by the way. I know I'll do it, but I'll be very nervous.

Thanks for participating in this week's All women blogging carnival.

The Koala Bear Writer said...

This post was right on topic for me right now... I'm working on marketing my work, but fear of rejection is one of my biggest problems. This was a great reminder to push aside that fear and just submit!

kc said...

I can't market my work when I don't have any! I made myself a goal to finish a rough draft of my first novel this year and I can't get past the main character's sketch! And I even want to change and make another one the main character. It's the most awful thing trying to come up with an interesting plot! But I know I want to write--I have studied craft. I just need to get started.
God help me.
I appreciate your blog and e-mails. God has certainly done a work in you and you're such an encouragement.
God bless,